Telling people

I have told a few friends that I am getting a MM. I haven't gotten a ton of support. Basically 2of my friends has been supportive. 1 has had plastic surgerythe other is a supportive friend. My family- parents and siblings do not live near me. And I am not sure if I am going to tell them until after. I have gotten negative feed back from friends I am nervous enough I don't need any more negativity. 2 of my good friends I can tell are almost annoyed I am getting surgery. On the plus side my husband is very supportive. I don't know what to do about my friends and if I should tell my family before hand???