Hi! This is me. I have have bothering by them my whole life. Never thought I was normal. I am 40 Yrs old now. Always shy with men but they always seem to love me down there for some reason. So that isnt a issue but I always keep the lights out and will never walk around without undies. Been in two long term relationships. 1st was obsessed, I was open about it. My darling BF now I haven't talked about it with. Been together almost 4 years. He hasnt been with many women so I feel like he doesn't know what it should look like. haha But, for me it is uncomfortable. I find undies with a crotch that is open on top bothering me so I sometimes cut out the cotton crotch fabic making them much thinner. Or, I will layer them with a light day pad and this happens to help me not to feel them or feel like they are getting irritated. I like the softmess of them and still want them there but just not hang as much. Not look as big. Can this be done? Is it called a trim? Im in MA/RI area. Thank you so much for being here! I also dont like the darkness of them either :(